Every founder faces that moment. Where an idea moves from a thought to being tested against the world.
This stage is delicate. If you charge ahead without questioning the idea, it might break when reality hits. If you hesitate too long, you might never leave the starting line.
Mentors exist to bridge that gap. They offer clarity, challenge, and a chance to refine your thinking before you expose your idea to the world.
But mentors are not magic. They won’t tell you what to do. Instead, they act as mirrors, revealing flaws and strengths you might not see yourself. And while they’re no ultimate substitute to testing with your potential customers, learning how to work with them well is important.
Here’s how to use their expertise to help validate your startup.
Why mentors matter at the ideas stage
When you're early in the journey, it’s easy to get stuck in your own head. Every part of the idea feels personal, and it’s hard to separate what you think is true from what is true.
Mentors help you see things more clearly. They’re not emotionally tied to your idea, so they can ask the tough questions you might avoid. They’ve seen similar paths before and can point out blind spots, challenge assumptions, and stop you from going in circles.
Most importantly, mentors help get your idea out of your head and into the real world, where it can be tested, improved, and made stronger.
How to help validate your startup idea with your mentor
1. Ask specific questions
If you want to waste a mentor’s time, ask, “What do you think of my idea?”
That question is too broad, and you’ll usually get vague feedback in return. Most people, especially outside your industry, won’t know how to respond to a rough, early-stage idea without more direction.
The better approach is to define what you need. Validation is not a single question but a series of smaller ones:
- “Does this solve the problem in a meaningful way?”
- “What risks or blind spots do you see?”
- “If you were in my shoes, where would you start testing this?”
- “What paths would you explore if you were me?”
These kinds of questions give your mentor something specific to work with. If they pause to ask what you mean, try to tighten the question. The clearer you are, the more helpful their feedback will be.
2. Give them context
Your mentor can’t help if they don’t understand your world. Before asking for input, make sure you explain three things:
- Who you’re helping
- What problem they have
- How you’re helping them
For example, instead of saying, “I’m building a platform for remote teams,” you might say:
“Remote teams struggle with brainstorming because tools like Slack and Zoom are too structured. I’m creating a whiteboard app that brings back the flow of in-person collaboration.”
This kind of clarity helps your mentor step into your shoes, and the shoes of your potential customer.
If you want even sharper feedback, show them something. Offer an early prototype, a sketch, a simple mockup. People give better advice when they’re reacting to something real, not just imagining what you’ve described.
3. Seek criticism over validation
The temptation to hear, “this is brilliant!” is hard to resist.
But compliments don’t make ideas better. Mentors are most valuable when they challenge you. So rather than asking, “Do you think this will work?”, you should ask questions that encourage criticism:
- “What assumptions here might be wrong?”
- “How would this fail?”
- “What’s missing or unclear?”
- “What would you need to see to believe this idea could work?”
A mentor’s skepticism is a gift. It’s an invitation to think more deeply and refine your approach. And the harsher the criticism, the more resilient your idea becomes.
But don’t forget, mentors have biases. They’ve seen the world through their own experiences, which makes their feedback both valuable and flawed.
Your job is to interpret their input, not treat it as truth. When a mentor says, “This won’t work,” they’re not delivering a verdict – they’re sharing a perspective.
The best way to use feedback is to treat it as a hypothesis.
For instance, if a mentor doubts your pricing model, ask, “How can I test this quickly?” If they doubt your customer segment, talk to real users and see what they say.
Testing feedback against reality separates advice that strengthens your idea from advice that doesn’t apply.
4. Organise and take action
Mentor meetings can be full of great ideas, but if you don’t capture them, they vanish. Where possible, you should record your mentor sessions, so you can clarify anything you might have missed or misunderstood.
After each meeting, take a moment to write down:
- What resonated with you.
- What surprised you.
- What actions you need to take next.
This reflection becomes your guide. It helps you prioritise and stay focused.
But don’t get stuck in a loop of endless validation. If you keep seeking feedback without moving forward, you’ll eventually feel stalled. At some point, you have to stop asking and start acting.
If you’re not sure whether it’s time to take the next step, ask yourself:
- Have I answered the critical questions about this idea?
- Am I using mentor feedback as an excuse to delay?
- Is this ready to be tested in the real world?
Once you’ve got clarity, take action. Test or implement what feels relevant, and learn from what you do.
And make sure to follow up with your mentor. Share how their advice influenced your decisions. They’ll appreciate seeing their input in action, and it builds trust for future conversations.
While mentors can help you prepare, but they can’t eliminate the risk of failure. Validation is a tool, not a guarantee. Eventually, you must trust what you’ve built enough to let it stand on its own.
Final thoughts
Validation works best when there’s friction. Mentors challenge your thinking. The market challenges your solution.
Each time someone questions your idea, it’s a chance to make it better. It might feel uncomfortable, but that’s how real progress happens.
Validation isn’t a one-off answer. It takes time, testing, and constant adjustment. But if you’re open to feedback and willing to take action, you can turn a fragile idea into a solid product.
And with the right mentor by your side, you can make that journey a little bit faster.
